Every leader is shaped by their family of origin and their experiences along life’s journey. These factors impact a leader’s approach to conflict, relationships, decision making and risk (and far more) daily basis. For every leader, it is not a question of IF, but of HOW these elements are impacting them. It is critical to explore the gifts, wounds, and impact of the social units we grew up in order to avoid unhelpful reactions we were conditioned for or strategies through which we learned to cope. This exploration enables us to harness our potential and cultivate a healthy environment for those we lead by growing and stewarding the awareness of our life story.
1. What were the helpful gifts (perspectives, learnings, belief) you learned or received from your family of origin that have shaped you as a leader?
2. What were unhelpful attitudes, responses, or behaviors you learned from your family of origin to be aware of?
3. How has your family of origin and life experiences shaped your default mode to approaching conflict with individuals or teams?
4. How has your family of origin and life experiences shaped your default posture towards achievement? Risk? Decision making? Managing resources? Failure?
5. How has your family of origin and life experiences shaped the values that are most important to you?
6. How has your family of origin and life experiences shaped your default perspective of your self-concept (your identity)?
The past will impact our future, but it doesn’t have to define our future. Taking time to reflect now can ensure that we are leading with the awareness needed to accomplish the vision and serve those lead along the way in a manner that empowers their humanity. In God’s hands, the gifts and the wounds of the past can be redeemed for the future.